"I obey, therefore I am accepted."
"I am accepted through what Jesus Christ did, therefore I obey."
Religion gives you control. You can do, say, be on your terms. You do your duty or desire, you've paid your dues. Now you can get what is owed you.
Christianity is all about what God is doing in me, to me, by His Grace. Now He can ask what He wants from me.
Truth often is.
He himself bore our sins in his body on the cross, so that we might die to sins and live for righteousness; by his wounds you have been healed. ~1 Peter 2:24
For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith—and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God— not by works, so that no one can boast. ~Ephesians 2:8, 9