I don't know why I have to be so defensive when I talk about this. Well, I know why. Because if everyone that doesn't see it my way sees the way I see things, I'm afraid I'll be judged as a religious maniac, judgmental and hateful. Closed-minded. Stupid and unwilling to look out at the world. I don't really understand. This post is really about what is age-appropriate, but it's impossible not to address what is Appropriate and Right.
Actually, none of those things are true. If you knew me. If you knew me. Cuz I do understand.
I just braved the snowstorm to take my 7-year old son and his 9-year old friend to see a local production of a play. The play is billed as "recommended ages 4 to adult." So this play. One too many scenes of the cast end faced to the audience shakin it. A lascivious female character making like Marilyn. A tomcat and a shecat flicking their tongues at each other. A gender crunching queen careening and cavorting about. There were some cute puns. Puns, I love. Puns, I can do. I can't do the sexual innuendos that were riddled through the play.
This is considered appropriate for all ages.
Don't give me the "they have to learn some time" thing. Some time. Not at 7 and 9. I am busy building a firm foundation. A firm foundation of love and order and certainty and a world that is safe. You can't build a healthy child whose mind says things are always akilter. Because when they find the world IS akilter? the foundation may crack. Does a 7- and 9-year old need to know about all the things in this world? or do we, as parents, have the right and responsibility to judge when the times are right? I know people who don't see it that way. They want to "normalize" everything for their children. Sex. Divorce. Abuse. A building's foundation shouldn't be filled with hail and mud and rodents because that's what the building will face. No. You interlace the foundation with rods of steel so it will be as sturdy and sure as possible to withstand the storms and rats.
And clearly, this play had an attitude of normalizing certain aspects of society. Part of the attitude is that being sexualized and homosexual is "normal." And did you notice? I'm as offended by the sexualization no matter what "brand."
I have spent my life. I have spent MY LIFE. Incalculable hours, energy being open-minded. I went to a liberal, elitist East-coast college. Further beyond, I read, explored, saw. SAW. I am not what you'd ever consider squeamish. Spiders and worms? Yes. Alternative lifestyles and world views? No. I've spent too much energy making fun of people who blush at nudes in the museum. Or picketed Mapplethorpe. I've thought about many difficult issues and how they relate to my Christian world-view. And I'm not afraid to do a face-to-face. At a bar. A den of inequity.
Now as I close in on 50, I think I'm allowed to have some ideas about what I believe. I've had and have friends who are homosexual. I understand the biology of it. I don't believe it's a right way to behave. Behave. I didn't say be. You can be, doesn't mean you have to behave. I don't think it's a Right. And don't even compare it to Civil Rights. Don't even go there. Racism is about someone standing there, not having done a thing and being negatively attributed. Yea, negated, even.
Does that make everything I do correct and righteous? No.
Am I threatened by it? No.
Do I think it threatens my marriage? No.
Do I think a homosexual is going to corrupt my son? No.
I'm not that frail and neither is my marriage. I just don't believe in living that out.
And I have a right to believe that. It's America. The United States.